If you are here, I directed you here. If I didn’t direct you here or if you found this page on your own, than this really isn’t meant for you, but feel free to read it anyways.
12/17/22
Mom, I am sharing here why I’ve stopped talking and interacting with you. This is in letter form so that you have time to read and digest it. These are my thoughts and my opinions.
To put it plainly, it is unhealthy and not fun being around you. You have a volatile mood, personality, and temper that makes it difficult to know who you are and who you will be one moment to the next.
To people outside your immediate and extended family, you are a wonderful, kind, and enriching individual. But inside of your family you are often not. You’ve expressed confusion over why you receive admiration from those in the community but not from me. You are a different person to those in the community compared to the person you are to your family.
To me, I see someone who has a difficult time regulating their emotions and who puts that burden on others. I see someone who is often confrontational and hostile. I see someone who lacks the ability to empathize and provide meaningful support to others. You have a difficult time understanding how and why other people can be sad or happy and you often get upset when I show any emotion around you other than neutral. You often take advantage of others when they are at their most vulnerable, beating them down emotionally and subsequently victim blaming. To me, you are manipulative, intrusive, insensitive, defensive, and controlling. Your love is smothering, empty, and full of darkness. I feel that I was often one of your emotional support pillars, but this is not my job. You treat my brothers with disrespect, while you treat me like a golden goose and it is difficult for me to watch. I wish you would treat them better. For these reasons, I have never trusted you and I will most likely never trust you. This is also why I share nothing with you.
I understand that you may not believe that there is anything wrong with your behavior or thoughts. However, as someone who loves and cares about you, I feel it is important to express my concerns. I wish you would do more introspection and reflecting on the effect you have on those around you. And/or, I wish you would simply ask your immediate and extended family how you affect them and how you could be a better person. And finally, I wish you would better take care of your own health before trying to look after others’.
Thank you for everything you have done for me.
Your son,
David